I have a client who has been calling Me, for almost a month. he wanted be to humiliated, when a caller sounds pretty beaten. It makes Me wonder what is truly on his mind. Point blank I ask, “What’s on your mind?” tom hesitates for a moment. Telling Me about how he dumped his girlfriend, and how he thinks it was a mistake. Having a woman holding down house, paying bills, and keeping everything in shape.

Leaving a complete nympho to say the least, and how he cheated on her. Apparently she goes down to Vegas, and throws up the guy she slept with in his face. Of course it pissed him off, cuz tom never tossed up any of the girls he had slept with in her’s..(funny how the male mentality works a complete contradiction).

I love how tom wants Me to roleplay with him!!, I love playing the ex-girlfriend..*smirks* Talk about a complete mindfuck, saying everything she is thinking, but isn’t saying. I have the honor and privilege in fucking with his mentality while tom’s vivid imagination is envisioning her with other men. At one point things became heated…”Why you fucking phone whore!!” it’s all he could say…My lovely response, “Don’t get things twisted you wanted Me to play evil ex-girlfriend”

All the things tom is afraid to ask, and everything she isn’t telling him. Is driving tom insane, so why not be honest, frank, and blunt…This is the type of therapy tom has been searching for…

After listening to ideas and suggestions on how we could make the BananaGuard better, we have introduced a few changes In an effort to create what we believe to be the ultimate BananaGuard.

* There is now a more robust snap click locking mechanism eliminating the need for the clips.

* The hinge is thicker and longer for durability.

* Opening and closing is now an easier operation.

By Ms Erika

1. Be honest. This pertains to any information you share or representation that you make of yourself. It includes, but is not limited to the basics of marital status, through to your expectations (in a partner and within the D/s lifestyle), experience level, fetishes and kinks (if they apply) and your limits. Don’t make a Dominant or anyone else an unwitting co-conspirator in something that could be an act of adultery, unsafe, insane or non-consensual. If you approach a Domina whose needs and desires are different from your own, accept those differences, do not try to manipulate her into changing her standards. By the same token, do not go against your own principles. Bottom line, don’t lie. If you are found out, word will quickly spread that you are a dishonest “player” and this can brand you permanently as untrustworthy. We “network” and most experienced lifestylers talk to each other (this very fact can also work in your favor if you are known to be a respectful, well-mannered and a genuine individual).

2. Have self-respect and be confident. Strong and submissive are not contradictions. You may think sitting quietly with your head down shows that you’re a true submissive. Actually it shows you’re boring. If you want to meet a Dominant woman, you have to attract her attention. If you don’t value your submissive gifts, why should she? If you are very shy get a friend to introduce you and perhaps initially stay around to keep the conversation going. You don’t have to throw yourself at a Domme’s feet to attract her attention. Act in a way that gives a Dominant confidence in you, your abilities, desire to submit and sincerity. Present your best qualities, without being conceited. A sense of humor can always serve you well under these circumstances, and at the very least, remember to smile. Read more

What Was The Kinsey Report? How a revolutionary 1948 book revealed that most sex happens when people are alone By John Greene

You may have heard references to something called the “Kinsey Report,” often mentioned when sexual statistics are bandied about. But did you know the Kinsey Report is over 50 years old? It was a human sexual behavior study conducted by Alfred Kinsey over a number of years and published in 1948 under the title Sexual Behavior in the Human Male. For his study Kinsey surveyed a variety of people about their sexual habits. In 1953 he published another book, Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, based on a similar study.

The Kinsey Report was controversial because it contradicted the commonly held views of the time regarding sexual behavior in both males and females. The conservative ideas of the first half of the 20th century contrasted sharply with the data that Kinsey collected — including ideas about masturbation. Before Kinsey, sex was largely viewed as an event conducted between married men and women, and that for women, it was mostly a utilitarian exercise for procreation. But Kinsey showed that sex most often happened when people were by themselves.

Kinsey’s data indicated that 92% of males reported having masturbated, as opposed to 62% of females. Kinsey also noted that “Masturbation was the most important sexual outlet for single females and the second most important sexual outlet for married females, providing 7-10% of orgasms for those 16-40.” Kinsey also noted that “In males, masturbation after marriage occurred with reduced frequency.” Other statistics indicated 68% of males and 50% of females had engaged in premarital sex. 37% of males and 13% of females had instances of at least one homosexual experience that resulted in orgasm. It’s no wonder the Kinsey Report was controversial in the late ’40s — and it continues to engender discussion even today.

Even the masturbation stats were controversial. Read more