A client called with an issue stemming with his domme. When they first began it was about submissive roleplay and chastity. Now the odds have been increased to where she wants to do the nasty with him. While keeping him in a closet, using various toys, and as a sex-toy essentually making all of his subbie dreams come true. The problem he’s married, and feels a bit uncomfortable with the idea of sleeping with her b/c he’s married.

My conventional solutions are Dump the Domme, Tell your Wife, or respectfully have a conversation with his domme about the situation. Sex wasn’t ever part of the agreement and should respect his wishes. What confuses Me is how could this submissive allow himself to become tangled in a web of manipulation.

If your going to do the dirty with the domme. he should at least have the courage in telling his wife, and not trying to make up his wife’s mind. Instead of making the inherent choice for his wife. he says, “i love my wife.”

Which is emotional cowardice statement. Saying you love your wife, adding on, “my wife and i lead separate lives, doesn’t mean it’s alright to just blatantly hurt her. This couple is still commited. This isn’t a perfect world, so may this person make the right choice instead of setting burning his candle at both ends.